Motherhood is a beautiful, messy, and often overwhelming journey. It’s a role filled with love, laughter, and countless precious moments, but it can also be incredibly overstimulating. As moms, we’re constantly juggling the needs of our children, household responsibilities, and, if we’re lucky, a few moments for ourselves. But sometimes, the sensory overload becomes too much, and we feel like we’re on the verge of losing it. I’ve been there—more times than I can count—and I want to share one of those moments with you.
It was a typical afternoon, or at least as typical as life gets with a newborn and a toddler. I was sitting on the couch, breastfeeding my baby, trying to savor the quiet connection that comes with nursing. But quiet? That’s not exactly a word that exists in the vocabulary of a two-year-old. My toddler, ever the bundle of energy, climbed onto the couch beside me. At first, I thought she just wanted to snuggle, but no—she decided that my mouth was her new favorite sensory toy. Her tiny hands started rubbing my lips, poking at my cheeks, and exploring every inch of my face. Meanwhile, my newborn was latched on, suckling away, and I was doing my best to stay still and calm.
But then, the TV blared in the background, and the chaos of the house seemed to crescendo all at once. I felt like I was being pulled in a million directions—physically, emotionally, and mentally. My skin was crawling, my nerves were frayed, and I just wanted to scream. I wanted to run away, even if just for a moment, to escape the overwhelming sensory overload. But of course, I couldn’t. I was needed, and so I stayed.
That moment, like so many others, taught me something important: **overstimulation is real, and it’s okay to feel it.** As moms, we’re constantly giving—our time, our energy, our love—and it’s easy to forget that we need to refill our own cups, too. Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s survival. It’s how we show up as the best versions of ourselves for our families.
Here are a few ways I’ve learned to cope with overstimulation and prioritize self-care, even in the busiest seasons of motherhood:
1. **Acknowledge Your Feelings**
The first step is to recognize when you’re feeling overstimulated. It’s okay to admit that you’re overwhelmed. You’re not failing as a mom; you’re human. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that this moment will pass.
2. **Create Small Moments of Calm**
You don’t need hours of alone time to recharge (though that would be nice!). Even five minutes can make a difference. Step outside for some fresh air, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, or lock yourself in the bathroom for a quick moment of silence. These small pauses can help reset your nervous system.
3. **Set Boundaries**
It’s okay to say no—to your kids, your partner, or even the TV. If the noise and chaos are too much, turn off the screens, set your toddler up with a quiet activity, or ask for help. Boundaries aren’t just for you; they’re for your family, too. A calmer mom means a calmer home.
4. **Prioritize Sleep and Nutrition**
I know, I know—easier said than done, especially with little ones. But sleep and food are the foundation of your energy and mood. Even if it’s just a quick nap when the baby sleeps or a handful of nuts instead of skipping breakfast, small choices can make a big difference.
5. **Ask for Help**
You don’t have to do it all alone. Whether it’s your partner, a family member, or a friend, reach out and ask for support. Even a 30-minute break to take a walk or enjoy a cup of tea can help you feel more like yourself.
6. **Find Joy in the Chaos**
Sometimes, the best way to deal with overstimulation is to lean into it. Play with your kids, dance to the loud music, or join in the chaos for a few minutes. Laughter and connection can be powerful antidotes to stress.
Motherhood is a constant balancing act, and overstimulation is just one part of the journey. But by prioritizing self-care—even in small ways—we can find moments of calm amidst the chaos. Remember, you’re doing an incredible job, and it’s okay to take care of yourself, too. After all, a happy, healthy mom is the best gift you can give your family.
What are your go-to strategies for dealing with overstimulation? Share your thoughts in the comments below—I’d love to hear from you!
With love and solidarity,
Sarah Gabrielle
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